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Changing Your Mind About Love:
What you need to know to have the relationship of a lifetime
INDEX
A B C
D E F G I
L M P R S
T U V
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A
Acknowledgement
Action Guide, 107
and conflict, 65-66
and relational communication, 106-107
as a psychological necessity, 66, 100
Anger, 49-52
Action Guide, 85
and its effect on relationships, 49-52
expression of, 49-52
individual experience of, 49-51, 77-80
Anxiety
about being in a relationship, 55-57
about conflict, 61
about differences, 42
about work, 17-19
Action Guide, 84
and vulnerability, 53-55
individual experience of, 80
physical experience of, 80-81
Arguing, 58-60
and close relationships, 59-60
win-lose, 60
B
Beliefs
about anger, 49-51
about changing other people, 34-36
about committment, 67-69
about differences, 42-44
about emotions, 73-75
about empathy, 91-92
about human nature, 4
about independence and healthy
development, 19-22
about independence and interdependence,
19-22
about relationships, 4
about self-esteem, 45-46
about sufficient emotional resources,
31-32
about work, 17-19
changing, 26-27
examining, 4-7
Body-mind connection, 77-80
Action Guide, 80
C
Commitment, 67-69
and freedom, 67-68
and mutual relationships, 68
of both partners, 68
Communication
Action Guide, 103-105, 107, 112-113,
115, 117
and acknowledgement, 106-107
and asking for what you want, 114-118
and effort, 101-103
and listening, 101-107
and mind reading, 114-118
and relational honesty, 107-112
and speaking your mind, 113-117
and the desire to understand, 105-106
relational, 101-103
Competition, 16-17
Conflict
and acknowledgement, 65-66
and compromise, 65
and differences, 61
and negotiation, 65
and resentment, 63
and win-win, 65
as an opportunity for learning, 59,
6163, 64
avoiding, 63-64
response to, 69
Cultural assumptions, 14-22
D
Deserving, 29-30
Dichotomous thinking, 60-61
Differences
and sharing influence, 42-44
biological, 7
denial of, 42
expressing, 43
inevitability of, 42
minimizing, 9-10
ranking, 43-44
Disconnection
to avoid conflict, 63-64
Divorce, 21-22
E
Emotional awareness, 73-88
Action Guide, 78
obstacles to, 73-77
of anger, 52-53
Emotional experience
and gender stereotypes, 74-75
and gut feelings, 77-80
and thoughts, 48, 82-88
feelings as signals, 73
meanings behind feelings, 40-42
mixed emotions, 47-49
of anger, 49-51, 86-87
of anxiety, 86-88
Emotional expression
and gender stereotypes, 7-9
and mutuality, 53
is relational, 49
of anger, 49-52
Emotional generosity, 31-33
Emotional responsibility, 109-112
Empathy, 92-93
Action Guide, 91-92, 94
and disagreement, 95-97
and gender stereotypes, 97-99
and stress, 95
as a choice, 93-95
barriers to, 99-100
benefits for relationships, 95
responding with, 93
F
Frustration, 28-29
G
Gender stereotypes, 7-9
and emotions, 74-75
and empathy, 97-99
Gulf View, 7-9
I
Interdependence, 20
Intimacy, expectations of, viii
L
Listening, 101-107
Love
and committment, 69-70
feelings of, 70
true love, 9
Love Conquers All, 9-11
M
Mind reading
in Unconditional Love, 12
Mutuality, 23-24
and arguing, 59-60
and commitment, 67-69
and emotional expression, 52
and empathy, 92-93
and living happily ever after, 118-119
and need for acknowledgement, 67
and relational honesty, 107-112
and resentment, 63
and trust, 57
and vulnerability, 55-57
finding satisfaction in, 30-32
P
Power in relationships, 14-17
defined as money, 15
determined by competition, 16-17
feeling coerced, 36
power over, 36
power struggles, 14, 34-35
ranking differences, 43-44
resistance to change, 35, 36-37
sharing influence, 34-46
R
Ranking, 43-44
Receiving acceptance and care, See Unconditional Love, 12
Relational honesty, 107-112
Resilience, 67-69
S
Scarcity
of emotional resources, 31
Self-esteem, 45-46
Shared influence, 34-46
and change, 38
and compliance, 38
and differences, 42-44
and emotional awareness, 38-42
and self-esteem, 45-46
T
Temperament, 88-89
Action Guide, 90
and its effects on relationships, 89
U
Unconditional Love, 11-13
appropriate and inappropriate, 12
emotional responsibility, 12
V
Vocabulary of emotions
Action Guide, 81-83
Vulnerability in relationships, 53-57
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